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Nov 1, 2022Liked by Michael & Melissa Wear

Thank you for this! Reminds me of how, during the height of the pandemic, I heard Christian people on both sides talking about bearing with the "weaker brother." Funny how we always think the weaker brother is the other guy!

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Thank you for that example and for taking the time to read!

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Hello! I am reading widely on substack today, interested in various responses to the Oster piece, including this one. There’s always something to take away from every perspective and I thank you for yours. The thing is, the “mistakes were made” stance is dismissive of real and measurable harm that never should have been allowed to take place. A majority of policies, including school closures, were strongly contraindicated in existing pandemic planning guidelines. Many countries opened schools sooner, some never closed them. That’s not “luck.” That was known and knowable information. If people want to rebuild trust in public institutions and public health, there needs to be accountability. A scorecard of how experts stack up is absolutely what we need going forward. Why should people who claim they were “in the dark” be allowed to dictate policy? What madness is that? There are a ton of experts with a scorecard that is full of wins. Not a mixed bag. Those are the people we should be listening to, not silencing. There should be an interest in preventing this from happening again. Oster’s plea is disingenuous.

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That's kind of you to say... It is reflective of my experience, but many others have mentioned similar thoughts and I don't honestly have that much more to add. If other people are inspired to look at things from another perspective, then that's awesome! I've tried training myself to do this in the past couple years and it's been really enriching.

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I do think the pandemic was a dynamic situation in which learning and being able to adjust your priors to a rapidly developing situation was key. Absolutely, whatever amnesty means* for anyone who is at least somewhat circumspect about that.

Wider than just the pandemic, but with the pandemic serving as the most universal example, I am very not interested in whatever amnesty means for people who have destroyed good things by immersing them in or using them for leverage in culture war. Did it with moralized zeal in the (falsified) name of Jesus, still insist they are and were always right. Blinded by culture war, will never acknowledge that they did harm, much less make amends and adjust to improve going forward.

Sorry if that coming from me is surprising or disappointing for y'all. I'm sure people will think I should read the Bible, or, like, Peterson, or Keller's book on forgiveness, or whatever, that I'm denying fundamental aspects of biblical Christianity. Forgiveness doesn't have to depend on the perpetrator's repentance, bitterness only hurts the ones who don't forgive even more, yeah, yeah, yeah, I know all the go-to stuff. Culture war-ifying everything, preferring to ruin it instead of share it, hurt a lot of people really, really deeply and people did that in the (falsified) name of Jesus. It's not just fine with me because the pandemic was tricky and complicated. They're gonna do it all over again at the next opportunity. Seventy times seven, right?

But if you want to dangle whatever amnesty means as a carrot for people to express circumspection, talk about what they wish they'd done different, acknowledge that people who disagreed aren't and weren't evil, I think that's a good idea.

*not a sarcastic thing; I think there could be some interesting conversations and compromises about what amnesty does and doesn't mean and I don't want to bicker about those details.

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Accountability first. Then, possibly forgiveness.

But amnesty? Nope.

Biden and Hochul are still making campaign appearances with Randi Weingarten, who likely did more harm to our children than any single person in American history.

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Well said.

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Instead, she’s in The Atlantic today arguing that if we hold grudges against everyone who got something wrong, or everyone who critiqued us when we think we were right, we will be continuing the social damage COVID has done to our lives, our relationships and communities, and we’ll be contributing to a “doom loop” of reactionary impulses.”

Yes!!! I just wrote about this: https://blacksnakeofvanity.substack.com/p/fear-of-judgement

The Black Snake of Wounded Vanity

https://blacksnakeofvanity.substack.com/

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I think this goes with the reality that we are going to be learning more about the last three years over the next decade. We will learn the mistakes that were made because we were working with only what we knew at the time. It's so hard. I have friends with vulnerable children who were isolated for nearly two years. I know too many people who lost loved ones to COVID. I know people suffering from long COVID. I'm a teacher and holy cow, can I see the impact of school closures but I was also afraid to be in person because I knew my students and their families weren't taking precautions outside of school. I'm a mom whose kids are actually doing ok because they have the privilege of living with educated, white middle-class parents who made sure they didn't stop reading and learning even though they were at home. Ever human has a different story and that's also what makes this all so hard.

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But I had loved ones that were/are. And long covid is hurting a lot of "perfectly healthy" people.

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They aren't intended to be scary quotes. No one is perfectly healthy but a lot of people are apparently healthy and there is a lot we don't know about how covid impacts the body one, five, 20 years down the road. A friend of my husband is being put on a kidney transplant list because of damage to his body after having covid. I believe a lot of mistakes were made. I believe that a lot of people were doing the best that they could with the information they had and would still say that we should have done things differently. I'm a teacher. Believe me, I know how shut downs impacted kids. I also know that masks work because I didn't see a case of the flu or colds for a whole school year, because kids were masked. We're human. We make mistakes. But there are lessons we should have learned from covid that we seem to have forgotten already (not working when sick, the need for paid sick leave, the brokenness of our health care system, the challenges in our schools, that our health impacts the health of others, etc.). I hope we're past the finger pointing stage of the pandemic and are moving to the thoughtful "how can we do better by our whole society" stage, but most days I doubt it.

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Well, over a million people have died from covid and there is plenty of evidence that many of those deaths could have been prevented if we hadn't politicized masking and vaccines (at least in the early days of vaccination before additional mutations). We could point fingers all day, but that doesn't change the fact that manypeople died, people are now dealing with chronic illness that our broken insurance system won't cover, and we don't know what the long term effects are going to be. There is a lot to be learned still and I will still error on the side of doing what is best for my neighbor.

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